Let's talk about boundaries. How are boundaries considered self love? How are they positive? How do we even set them?
🙋🏼♀️ Have you ever set boundaries?
• Yes: self love
• No: why not?
🙋🏼♀️ Did you stick to your boundaries in a moment that challenged them?
• Yes: self love
• No: why not?
🙋🏼♀️ Did you feel good when sticking to your boundaries?
• Yes: positive self love
• No: why not?
Boundaries are not meant to hurt anyone. They are meant to create a bubble around your energy, emotions, mental and physical state of mind. If they do hurt someone, that person may be trying to push your boundaries and failed (bruised ego) or may not understand the value of boundaries.
The number one person responsible for your happiness is YOU. You create it. You protect it. You value it. In return, others respect you, value you as well as learn how to set boundaries for themselves.
How do we set boundaries? Listen. Listen to your gut when something feels wrong. Listen when you feel you should say no but instead say yes. Listen when your body is telling you it doesn't like something or someone. Listen. Then set your boundaries. Life is about lessons so when you are being tested, listen to what the best solution is for you. Then stand by those boundaries.
By not sticking to your boundaries, the only person you are doing a disservice to is you.
You are doing awesome though! Keep that in mind!! And def listen to the gut!
I'm learning to set those boundaries. Sometimes it's hard to get out of those old habits and learn to take care of yourself first. Listen to your gut.